A Couple of Firsts in the Gregg Household

Hello. It has been awhile.

Things ARE happening with the kids. And yes, they ARE funny. But I have been either too busy or too lazy to post. We had a vacation. We prepared our house for sale. LeBron returned to Cleveland. There was that whole World Cup thing. (Ok, I maybe caught about five minutes total.)

We do have two freaking kids under the age of 3, for God’s sake. Give me a break. I have mastered the art of working and parenting on four hours of sleep a night for weeks at a time, but there is not a lot of energy left for writing.

What has happened during the past two months? Well, Tyson has taken his first steps and Sydney has started using the “big girls” potty.

Let’s start with Sydney.

My wife likes to say she is potty trained because she can sometimes go a whole day without any accidents. That’s like saying Justin Bieber has matured because he hasn’t done anything stupid or annoying in a week. You know there’s another episode right around the corner. I say a kid is not potty trained until there are NO accidents, including sleeping through the night without a diaper.

We should have potty trained her long ago. I planned on having her trained last summer, before she turned two. But then we had the stuff with Tyson’s heart and we were consumed with that, well into this year. Potty training Sydney required focus and stamina we did not have.

We began trying this spring, but we really began in earnest in June, when my wife, a teacher, began her summer “vacation.”

I put that in quotation marks because is staying home with two children under age 3 ever really a vacation? I know there are some weekends when I walk around my disaster of a house searching for a corner to escape the screaming and crying and just pray for the sweet relief of 8-10 hours of work at the office.

  

Sydney has done pretty well since Brooke took over full time. Most days, she can make it through the day without an accident. Accidents usually happen when she is doing something fun, like playing on the iPad. She doesn’t want to stop and go to the bathroom, so she just lets loose.

On the couch. Or the floor. Or even outside on the deck.

I do not understand kids. What in the world would make you feel like it would be a good idea to wet your pants? She’s of an age where she understands consequences, so this makes no sense to me. She is consciously choosing peeing herself over walking to the bathroom.

She used to have her own little potties, one upstairs and one downstairs. She was never more than 15 feet from a potty, yet she periodically felt it easier to just go in her panties than walk over to the potty.

By the way, those little potties are kind of nasty. I’m not sure how guys who have to clean toilets for a living ever become comfortable with it. Is it like working in a casino, where after awhile, you are deaf to the clamor of the slot machines? I’m not sure I could ever get used to scraping someone else’s poop out of the toilet or regularly experiencing someone’s pee sloshing over my hands.

Now that she is on the “big girls” potty, at least I can just flush. Of course, I still have wipe duty. For some reason, my daughter has chosen daddy as her dedicated potty assistant. Lucky me. So, more often than not, I get stuck wiping while my wife gets more glamorous duties, such as turning on the right cartoon. Why can’t I get a job that requires me to sit on the couch and work the remote? I’ve been practicing for that my whole life.

I guess it could be worse. My co-worker has a 2-year-old who gets up in the middle of the night and poops in dresser drawers. How'd you like to have to clean that up? Now THAT is funny. 

Sydney’s got a long way to go. We are reading books to her about going to the potty in hopes it will stick. We cheer for her after every successful evacuation. That alone leads to some uncomfortable episodes where she will emerge from the bathroom and squeal “I did poopie!” in hopes of getting her parents and WHOEVER ELSE MIGHT BE VISITING to celebrate her with a round of applause.

Still, I think we’ll have her completely trained before her third birthday on Aug. 30.

Now, to Tyson.

Sydney was a late walker, so the fact he had not walked by age 1 was not a worry for us. Given what he had been through with his heart, we knew there would be some developmental delays, but I was prepared not to worry until he hit the 15-month mark.

To this point, he has been ahead of her in gross motor skills and behind her in verbal and intellectual skills. The boy hardly speaks more than "mama" and "dada," but he crawls around the house with the speed of a German soccer player advancing toward the goal.

The other day, I left the baby gate open and turned my back for a second, only to hear my wife yell, with some urgency, a very loud “Brian!”

Now, when your wife yells at you like this, you know you are in trouble. Either you did something wrong, or one of the kids must be rushed to the hospital.

In this case, the angst in her voice was meant for me.

“Tyson just rounded the corner of the bathroom up here while I was getting Sydney ready. He climbed the whole staircase by himself. I don’t need to tell you what could have happened if he had lost his balance!”

No, you don’t. While one part of me was proud of his ability to climb 12 steps straight up in the time it took me to wipe mayonnaise off the kitchen counter, the other part of me knew that had he gotten to step 10 or 11 and somehow lost his balance, well, we’d be taking that trip to the hospital or planning his funeral.

Of course, I felt guilty. Of course, my wife was happy to increase my sense of guilt. That’s what marriage is all about, right?

But he survived and, now, only a few days past the 14-month mark, he is walking like a drunken sailor.  His head has regular appointments with the floor and any other object within three feet, but, by God, he is walking. And there is no slowing him down.

While Sydney likes to page through a book, he likes to tear a book to pieces. While Sydney will occasionally get wrapped up in intently watching a television show, Tyson prefers to have it on in the background while he walks laps around the house. While Sydney will sit on the bed and let her daddy read to her, Tyson will attempt to dive off of the bed head first – numerous times.

First steps and first shits (in the toilet.) That's life in the Gregg household.

Consider me blessed.