Focusing on a New Battle

 

 



 

 

I’ve had more than a few people ask for an update on Tyson, so here it is.

His heart seems to be ok. There haven't been any red flags to this point. The small tear that didn’t completely patch is being monitored and they think it will eventually fix itself.

I don’t want to be overly dramatic. This is not a miracle. But it is a tremendous outcome. We are blessed to have come this far. If I wasn't so bashful, I'd do a thank-you dance in the middle of Cincinnati's Fountain Square, that's how happy we are. 

But there is still a big obstacle to overcome.

First, the good news. His demeanor is better. He smiles a lot more and engages in a little back-and-forth cooing with his mom and dad every now and then. I absolutely LOVE to see him smile and when he is in one of these moods I stop everything I am doing and engage him.

It is so nice that his tiny body doesn’t have to work as hard anymore. He used to be constantly exhausted, as well as writhing in pain. You can now see the potential for him to be a “normal” baby and he has several times a day when he is actually a pretty happy kid.

But not all is well. I’d say that where he was a 10 on the scale of cranky babies pre-surgery, he is probably now a 7. He still has a lot of stomach issues. While the doctors told us to expect this with heart babies, we are still a bit unclear on the connection between his heart problems and his stomach issues and wonder if something else is at play. 

He simply doesn’t like to eat. I believe it causes him pain. He gets extremely gassy and it is very painful, so he doesn’t want to put himself through that experience.

This is how bad it is: after we try to feed him everything we can via bottle, we then have to pour the rest down his tube. When you hook the syringe up to the tube, you sometimes can hear gas bubble up through the tube and watch it come to the surface of the milk in the syringe. On really bad days, when he gets particularly cranky, he can force the whole syringe-full of milk he just drank out of his belly and back into the syringe.

Poor kid. We have talked to doctors and tried different fixes, but nothing is working.

As a result, he is only getting about half of the food they want him to take in a day, and he only takes about half of that voluntarily. We are slowly adding more – 5 milliliters per feed every week – in hopes of getting him up to what a normal kid eats.

Brooke and I hate the tube. Not only is it a burden on us – we feed him eight times a day (every three hours), and each feed takes about 45 minutes – but he seems to really dislike it and we wonder if it is a reason he DOESN’T eat. Filling his belly constantly also leads to a couple of throw ups each day.

The docs don’t seem to mind. Their only concern is getting the food into him. He has fallen off the growth charts and they want him to get his calories up. Whether he is miserable doesn’t matter.

So, we plug away.

I wouldn’t mind waking up every three hours in the middle of the night if we knew it was helping, but I am not so sure it is. The irony for us is we have a baby who would completely sleep through the night, but we have to feed him every three hours. Meanwhile, our 23-month-old still parties like a rock star throughout the night.

If we can’t fix this problem with the feeding tube that runs through his nose, they will eventually put one directly into his stomach. We certainly don’t want that. You can bet we are doing everything in our power to turn this around.

Caring for him is especially challenging now that Brooke is back to work. As you can tell from my previous descriptions, you spend nearly a third of a whole day just feeding him. We’ll soon add therapy sessions to catch him up developmentally. And, of course, he still has numerous doctor and cardiology visits.

We are working on some things to put a system in place where he has the right people to ensure he gets everything he needs and I’ll have more on that in a later post.

To all who have sent prayers and good thoughts his way – the key message from this post is that they worked. He is on the right path and we have every reason to believe he will come out of this A-OK.

But don’t completely forget him. He still has a tough piece of road to travel and your support means the world to us. Someday he is going to understand he made it through on the strength of his community’s shoulders.